Being Predictable Isn't All Bad, Is It?
Recently, someone in my family responded to something I said with, "You're so predictable." It wasn't a compliment. Then, I tried to argue my case, which didn't and rarely works. While, it ruffled my feathers, it also nudged me to hunt for the truth within the exchange. Actually, through most of my 85 years, I believed that to be predictable was good. Like some kind of holy aspiration.
So, I've been thinking about predictability. Webster's dictionary states that to be predictable means, "You are able to be known, seen, or declared in advance." And this is often rooted in habits and routines. For example, my Daddy was never late. If he was going to pick me up after band practive, I could count on him being there. That made me feel safe. And loved. That's a good kind of predictability.
However, when I think longer, I realize that to be predictable can also demonstrate I'm in a rut. Or that I'm stubborn. After googling (I love that word), I read that predictable also means that something is commonplace and stale. People, too. Right? You know, living life like one big yawn. One day blurs into another, leaving no room for excitement, surprises or fresh starts. If that's it, I don't want to be so predictable.
So, life is about balance. There's an idea! I want to be counted on, like I counted on my Daddy to be there. But I don't want to be so predictably stubborn(my way or the highway) or so stale in my thinking and actions that I'm counted out.
Well, we are living in chaotic, unpredictable times in our country. So, I choose to shift my focus from all the bad news to the One who knows and sees all. God is both, predictable and full of surprises. You and I can count on God. However, one is wise to never count God out. We all know bad stuff happens. But so does good stuff.
So, hunt the good stuff. It's there. You're proof. So is my sister-in-love, Chris. I count on her daily dose of humor. Take this, for example: "One minute you're young and fun. The next you're predicting the weather with your bad knee."
Lets help each other be the best kind of predictable in unpredictable times.
Not easy.
But possible.
Together is better.
Amen?
10 Comments
Thank you. I needed this today
You and me both, dear Kathleen. Isn't that how it often goes. What's going on inside us, finds a way out through words or actions, and hopefully, helps someone else, as well. Thanks for being proof of God's good surprises.
Hi Jan! I don’t know, maybe it’s just me, but I don’t know too many unpredictable 85-year-olds! And come to think of it, if there are some, we typically think that they have a mental illness or some other concerning ailment. Just my opinion.
So stay predictable (and yet someone who is willing to learn and to take a second look)!
Hah! Love my Gordon "kids" who keep cheering me on. Thanks, dear Jeri!
Jan, if you're "predictable," it's in the best of ways. I can count on you for generosity of spirit, continual encouragement, and thoughtful content here on your site that continually feeds my soul and gives me fresh ways of thinking about significant things. I'm grateful for such constancy. Thank you!
Thanks, my dear Norwegian sister. These are such unpredictable times, some constancy is needed. Everything can't be up for a vote or negotiation. But I do want to stay away from stubbornness or an unwillingness to take a second look or listen a little longer. Just in case, I'm wrong. (See me smile!)
God is both predictable and full of surprises--thanks for the food for thought.
And thank you for taking time to read and respond, new Mama Alyssa. I pray that you and Andrew are experiencing some of God's great surprises and predictability as you enter the challenging and wonderful world of being parents.
Amen! Great thoughts as always <3
Always good to hear from you,,d ear Wendy. Thanks for checking in.