Family & Grandchildren

NEEDED: COURAGE!

Poco turned fourteen on Tuesday. I remember when I was fourteen. It was a hard, yet a growing within and up kind of year. Our family was adjusting to a small rented house in Decatur, Georgia. But even more from Daddy being a pastor to selling Nutrilite vitamins to provide for our family. Mama was a nurse and I got a job, at age 14, in a local Five and Dime store. Life was just OK.

But late August meant time to enter another new school. So trumpet case in hand, I entered Avondale High School as a ninth grader with hopes of making the band. And I did. But tooting a trumpet did not make a girl cool, like being a cheerleader or majorette. But I met Marilyn, who played clarinet and also was a drum majorette. She had long blonde hair and the first to welcome me to the band and the high school. She was a 10th grader. I felt almost "in".

To be sure, as a former preacher's kid, I knew how to blend in, be kind and to care about more than myself.And that helped bridge me into high school, as did belonging to The Band. We marched at football games. Did some fancy footwork, and for a Baptist preacher's kid, that's as close to dancing as I got back then.

But I was a skinny, flat chested girl in a big-boob world. And I worried about my family and what was next for us. And then I caught a bug. So stayed home from school for a week. One day I heard the doorbell ring. No one was home, so I rose from my bed in nubby flannel pajamas and mussed hair to answer the door. And there stood Marilyn and her boyfriend, Hugh, the quarterback of the HS football team! Holy help! They held a gift for me. I was stunned. Marilyn and I were friends at school and in the band, but nothing deeper. But their presence and gift were heaven sent.

So why me? Why them? And why the gift? Jesus. Now, don't laugh. But I think Jesus knew how scared and lonely I was. And how I was trying to be part of the solution for my family, taking on more than I needed to on my shoulders, as the eldest child. And I believe, Jesus tapped two cool kids to show up on my front porch with a gift of extravagant love. The gift? It was a stuffed animal. A lion. Remember the cowardly lion in the Wizard of Oz. What did he need? Courage. Well, that was me back then. And today, too. Often.

So Tuesday night, what do you think my gift was to Poco for her 14th birthday? Yup, a stuffed lion with this story to go with it. These are hard times to be a child, teenager, an adult, an immigrant, different in some way or an older person. Fear, distrust and anger flood social media and other sources. Opinions, lies, distortions, manipulated images, tribes comfort and bind, well-intended warnings and threats pummel us. We need an infusion of courage and trust that God is awake and the hosts of heaven are praying for us. We aren't alone.

And so, I pray as I write, that you will take courage from this story and trust God to come in unexpected ways during your turbulent times. Years later, I read The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis and met The Lion, Aslan. So, while Poco will name her own lion, to me, I gave her a reminder of Aslan and Jesus, the Lion of Judah, who sees, knows, and loves her. And will never leave her.

And so to any of you who worry or feel unseen or alone, may God show up somehow on the doorstep of your heart to surprise you with what God, alone, knows you need to help you press on. Looking back, I am so aware of God's faithfulness and care for me when I was fourteen. Seventy years later, finds me even more aware of God's faithfulness in tough times.

So today, when tempted to curl up and despair, or feel alone and discouraged, I recall these words to a frightened leader and people, "...be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."(Joshua 1:9, NLT) And, I pray you'll hear, when most needed, the words Aslan whispered to Lucy in C.S. Lewis's The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, "Courage, dear heart."

Yes, Jesus still speaks.

Listen, be still.

"Courage, dear heart."

20 Comments

James

Thank you Jan!

Jan Carlberg

You're so welcome, dear James. Thank you for taking time from your one precious life to read and respond to this blog post.

Niffy Dickinson

Great blog Jan! Especially in these times of elections, everyone will need courage!

Jan Carlberg

Yes, dear Niffy, we will need courage to get up and get out and vote. And believe our vote matters, which it does. And when it's all over to be part of a growing number of people who want to build bridges with those with whom we may disagree on some matters. I so love hearing from you!! Sending a hug to your Mama, too.

Pat Sheridan

Lovely, strong thoughts. Nothing is just given, we need to have the courage to seek out what we need. And then, we appreciate it, and are stronger. Carry on dear friend.

Jan Carlberg

Oh, dear Pat, my favorite NP,PA, for years, my go-to DOC close by for all things medical, great to see your name show up. Are you in Minnesota or back in these parts? Thank you for your encouragement. You were good at that in your medical profession and now, as a friend. Blessings on you and your family.

Evelyn (Buckstein, Steinhart) Morgan

Dear Jan, speaking of gifts, just today I came across a beautiful green dish that was gifted me when you and Jud came to visit. I was reminded of you and told my caregiver about my roomie in college. I treasure that beautiful beautiful green dish as a reminder of the person who encouraged me when I was a student with a farm girl background among all the influential students who thought they were better. You gave me the courage to make it in this world and keep working hard regardless of who thought less of me. Thank you for the gift of so long ago. Good remembrance. God Bless. I'm still pressing on to serve our Lord in a Baptist church at 86.

Jan Carlberg

Very dear Evie, I'm so grateful for any way I encouraged you. You did the same for me with your discipline and creative ways in the field of human ecology, aka Home Economics. You were so bright in practical ways. I'm grateful you have something that reminds you of our time together as roommates in college, and then as friends. I pray you are receiving loving care, like you've given to so many over the years. Not surprised you're still involved at your Baptist church. Oh, before I forget, sometimes you send me something via Fccebook Messenger. I don't have an account with them, so can't open anything. And I don't plan on opening one. I'm old! However, not too old to pray fort blessings on your day, as you press on, dear Evie.

Dale

Thanks Jan. God's timing is perfect but yours is not bad! My favorite cereal is Heart to Heart and that, for me, describes your notes. I think the only reason it was doubting Thomas was because doubting Dale was unavailable. The physical bugs have both Marty and me, but I think this has happened because God wanted us to have something to direct our prayers. He also wants us to remember His wonders and not only our worries. May the Lord bless this day as He has the day you were born. Love, Dale

Jan Carlberg

So good, always to hear from you, my brother/friend Dale. I'm so sorry the bug bit you and Marty. I hope to see and hear Francis Collins tomorrow at the Boston Public LIbrary! He knows how to focus on the wonders and not the worries. May God help us to be kind, listen long and always care about each other during this strident, fretful time in our country and world. So keep praying. Love always to you and Marty.

Jeri

I love this story so very much, Jan. High school is incredibly difficult (then and now) and we all live through those perilous times on the edge. I too am thankful for knowing Jesus and the truths of scripture during such rocky times. How would I have survived otherwise? Thanks for the look-back and the ways in which He met your needs. Powerful telling of such a seeming small act of gift-giving, and yet so needed AND remembered by you! We all need to remember to make these acts of kindness more frequent. You just never know how God will use them!

Jan Carlberg

Isn't that the truth, dear Jeri! We never know how something small can be used by God to make a BIG difference. So grateful for you and Ron and your years at Gordon and in DC. May you continue to be instruments of God's peace in troubled times.

Robin MacLeod

Wow. And thank you.

Jan Carlberg

And thank you, dear Robin. I miss seeing you and remain so grateful for the years you and Steve were a significant part of the family of Gordon and Barrington. Sending blessings of courage and joy to you and your fanily. Thank you for taking time to read this post and respond. You encouraged me.

Alyssa Arnold

I love the lion analogy! So sweet, thanks for sharing.

Jan Carlberg

And it did me good to remember when I was fourteen and how God showed up to infuse courage into a scared teenager in Georgia. But even more fun to pass on the story and a lion to Poco this week for her 14th birthday I'm grateful the story touched you, too, dear Alyssa.. . Sending hugs to you and Andrew.

Maggie Wallem Rowe

Jan, I loved your story and the special meaning of your gift to 14 year old Poco. Courage is exactly what we need.

"Grant us wisdom, grant us courage, for the living of these days!"

By the way, I shared one of Heather Richardson's letters (that you shared with me) with a contact I have on Twitter - now X - and it has received thousands of views. Truth in the context of history - how we must heed it.

(And I just might need to quote you in the piece I'm writing for next Tuesday.)

Jan Carlberg

Great. Happy Heather Cox Richardson's post got passed along. As for quoting me, feel free. I'm grateful something I wrote is worth repeating! Still praying for all of you in Western North Carolina, dear Maggie. So grateful for you and Mike.

Wendy

Oh my goodness, this is just priceless! I don't remember hearing this story before of the 14 year old you, how perfect to share with Poco. I hope you gave her this story in writing with the lion so she will always have it!

Jan Carlberg

Thanks, dear Wendy. You haven't heard it before, because I never told it before. I told Poco and her family the story, wrote some in a card, but I think I may need to do more. She read the blog post! Thanks for your encouragement, always!!

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